To be a good coach you need to be a strong leader
To be a strong leader you need to be able to communicate well

A Coach is someone who, in the deepest part of their heart, wants to help you do better and is willing to undertake whatever pain is necessary to discover and rediscover how to do this. A great coach will always look at your failure or success as part of them and will also be grinding their internal gears to get better themselves so they can better help you. A great coach compromises to uphold the greater vision but never as a shortcut. A great coach loves their players and gains inspiration for their own life through working with them. A great coach can separate themselves from their failures and successes and never wants success more than their players.

Lessons from Little League

Probably the biggest lesson I’ve learned from coaching 12u Little League is there are tremendous gifts right in front of you if you allow yourself to see them. For me, it took a while to see because I had been so focused, so well trained, so short sighted on assuming I knew what the gifts were.

Mail It In

Do you remember all those people you use to work with,
have fun with
get in trouble with
go crazy with
do really, really questionable shit with?

Do you remember those people?

Where are they now
and what are they doing?

Are they still doing questionable shit?
Or have they traded it in
for predictable shit?

Trust me, I get it.

But I think I let you down,
my friend.

I think I let you down.

I stopped expanding
and started settling
I think I let you down.

The world, it got me,
fangs deep in
it was always trying
it was bound to win
a questionable man once said

every time I try to get out
they suck me back in

Do you remember the fun
and now you have the justification
you’re older now
and more mature
you know exactly
what’s behind each door
because you don’t check
new doors
no more.

you don’t check new doors
no more.

Do you remember those friends
and the trouble you got in
and the way you didn’t give a fuck
and the way you looked at folks who did
as if they didn’t have no luck

Jesus mother fucking life

We gave up
We gave up
We gave up the fight
and our world rewarded us in the night
as it laughed and laughed
with sick deelight
it holds no quarter
and it wil not fight
if you want to mail it in
the world says
It’s all right
all right
all right
all right.


The world is a vampire
sent to drink

Billy Corgan

25 years ago I was woken up by my fire
I built a wall around it
and there it burns

42 years ago I was woken up by my fire
I built a wall around it
and there is burns

Tonight I was woken up by my fire
I have a strong fire
I have a strong fire
I have a strong fire

It’s time to let it burn down the dead wood
It’s time to start new growth
If I had let it burn
so many years ago
I wouldn’t have to rage

But today, rage must happen before anything else

there is a chance it will get away from me

there is a chance it will get away from me

thank god there is a chance.

I’ve Had It Wrong All Along

You can’t out hypocrite a hypocrite
You can’t out coward a coward
You can’t out righteous the righteous

I see you.

If you say YES because you want to DO THINGS
You will say YES to anything you want
And not look for the consequences,
be they hidden
or right in front of your eyes.

Makes sense.

If you say YES because you say you want to be safe
You will say YES to anything that makes you feel safe
And justify any consequence
Based on your feeling of safety.

Makes sense.

If you say YES because you say the science matters
And you don’t take the same action
around Sugar
and on and on and on…
Then you are an obvious hypocrite

Makes sense.

If you say YES because you’re terrified and don’t know what to do
you are honest.

If you persecute others because they are not terrified and do know what to do
you are a tyrant.

If you say it’s a free world
and in a free world
people can make whatever choices they want
you are right.

If you think it’s necessary to have an authority that dictates the “Free World” you talk about…

You have what you want.

Your Wonderful Thing

What is your Wonderful Thing?

Quiet now, maybe you’ve forgotten…

Take comfort,

forgetting only means you’ve been distracted.

You can return home

you’re Wonderful Thing has not forgotten you.

What is your Wonderful Thing?

Where does your heart play

and your mind, just rides along
where do you find your human song
and do you know it’s been there
all along

What makes your hand dance
and your problems grey…

Shapes In Fog

It’s hard to see
to me

It’s hard to see
Around and between
it’s hard to see
life without me

And yet
here I am
walking and talking
like a man

It’s hard to see

But there’s something there
shapes in fog
and then gone again
and then re-appear
shapes in fog
there’s something there

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Join Me On Substack

Hi everyone,
I’m still going to keep publishing here on Damonswhirled but I’m taking another step and have begun publishing on Substack as well.

Substack will eventually be a paid subscriber platform, at least that is the goal. For now it’s free and exclusive. I won’t be publishing cross platform.

Come join me there as well!

White Shame

First of all, are you really serious about White Supremacy and Systemic Racism?

If I assume that you are…and, you sound like you are…

Don’t you think you need to do more than write words?

Don’t you think you need to do more than write apologies?

Don’t you think you need to do more than shame yourself, and others?

What must you do to rid yourself of the crushing guilt?

The disease of shame fires through the veins of your heart

and pumps through your blood and being.

You are shame.

You paint shame.

You paint your children with shame.

You have been unable to cope

with your own heart,

and so,

You paint your children’s heart with shame.

You paint your children’s heart with shame

because you are unable to embrace

and love

your own heart.

You paint your children’s heart with shame.

You ignite their blood

and electrify their heart,

you have perfected your own machine,

and this is your most profound gift,

to them.

Never listen to someone
who wants you to feel shame.

Never accept that shame today
will solve the problems of tomorrow.

It is the opposite. Exactly.

There are some people with White skin
who have the most money
who have enjoyed the most privilege
who have lived in bubbled safety
more than most who refuse
to recognize their own love
who treat their own love
like a beaten dog
who treat their own hearts
like a beaten dog

Because of their position
they have power
they have a microphone
and they are teaching.

They are teaching their shame.
They are showing us their shame.
They are forcing us to shame.

You can not be forced to shame.
You can die standing up for what you believe
But you can not be forced to shame.

If you shame. It’s your shame.

If you allow your children to be shamed.
It is your shame.
Your gift.
Your legacy.

Who’s the first of these White folks
who feel so passionately
that they must have the world feel like them,
who’s the first to stop paying taxes.

Who’s the first to stop paying taxes?
Who’s the first to sell their belongings
and the spoils of their imperial souls.

Who’s the first to do more than speak words of shame
to infect the children,
and stop paying tribute to the structure
they speak so emotionally about
in their words.

Systemic = Government,
Where are the white folks who will stop paying taxes.
Where are the white folks who will stop paying for the structure?

I know where they are.
I see them…

Behind their words
behind their worlds…

I see you.

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